Saturday, August 22, 2009

HE confirms, She learns... She Speaks Part 7

I was still afraid that I was making it up in my head. I was still afraid that I was taking something that could be too "sensational" and that it would distract from the rest of the message I really felt led to share.

Isn't it funny how God uses things like the next break out session to confirm exactly what He wanted you to do?

I walked into "Crafting a Noticed and Needed Message," by Karen Ehman.

Yup. That was the title.
Love how God does those things!

Now I had prayed through and picked these break out sessions well before I ever went to She Speaks. God orchestrated everything to be exactly what I needed to hear, when I needed to hear it.

I could probably write a book about what Karen shared. I will try not to! But as she talked it became very apparent that I had to share the story God wanted me to. One of the first things I wrote down was this quote.

You can do teaching couched in your own story that only you can tell.
I have the right to talk about my story.
In my stories I need to be real and honest.


God will always be stretching you in the area of your talk.

No wonder I found it so hard in the weeks leading up to She Speaks to believe that God had really called me there, and that I struggled so hard with feeling loved by Him, no matter what. My friend, Cindy had shared that was one of the things that she always found. She was stretched and challenged on the very things that she would be teaching on in a talk, the whole time she was preparing. I believed her, but had to be reminded frequently before my trip!!!

One of the big things I took away from there (among others) was that I need to be "stuffing my files." Remembering, noticing, writing down incidents, quotes, stories and making note of where I got them from. Create a folder on my computer to quickly type down something to remind myself and save it frequently.

Karen shared about five different areas to crafting a needed message.

  1. Prepare. (stuffing files, praying)
  2. Write.
  3. Practice. (recording self regularly, using family and friends to practice on)
  4. Deliver. (using silence, no vocal crutches)
  5. Live. (don't just preach it, but live it)

All of those were so good, and I was able to use them right on the spot with my talk. But there was a problem. I wish I had this information well before I had crafted my 5 min. talk. I had no time to completely rewrite it and make if flow better. I wanted to use all the things she talked about in the "writing" portion and incorporate them into my talk.

I just had to let that go.

One of the things she challenged us to do within the next week of leaving She Speaks, I have yet to do.

It's on my "list!"

First I need to pray about it, but then name 2-3 areas that I feel God is calling me to speak on. I have to pick an example/illustration from life, one from an outside source, and then pick one passage of scripture... for each of those areas. After that, I need to craft the skeleton of those talks.

That is definitely something I want to do. I am slowly coming out of my exhaustion, but have been slow to pick up on life, and start doing the things around the house I want to.

I have been trying to mentally prepare myself for letting my son go. He is heading into the "big" elementary school this year, to kindergarten. He is looking forward to it. I am wondering how it is going to change our lives.

Maybe there is a talk in there somewhere.
Another thing to stuff in a file folder?

It's funny how the more I write about what I learned, and go over my notes again, I find it all applying to and weaving into my life around me now. It's strange and good at the same time. So rarely have I come back from a conference and been able to retain, and recognize how things I have learned there work into my "everyday" life.

When I went into my next session by Wendy Pope, “Teaching by the Book,” I learned even more about preparing a talk. She really went in depth about using the online resources available. She gave websites and everything. It’s amazing to me just how much there is out there.

I was like a kid in a candy store! I love studying and writing and researching. Finding all these different things, well, I can’t wait to use them!

There is so much Wendy talked about that I am going to use the next time I prepare a message. Again, I was disappointed that I couldn’t use some of the stuff she shared in preparation for my 5 min. talk.

Again, I had to let it go.

A few key things she said that I just saw in my notes.

You can never pray enough.
Pray for everything God lays on your heart.
Pray for passion for His message for the event.
Ask God to give you ears to hear and eyes to see.
God speaks in more places than you church.

After Wendy's break out session, I talked with Katie. She had to go to our room and finish up her talk, and practice. I had to do the same, so I told her she could have the room, and I found a secluded corner of the atrium in the hotel, and curled up with my bible, journal and talk.

I sat, praying, journaling, and finally crying (yes, again….) as I tried to prepare myself for sharing not only the 5 min. talk, but my heart and the story God had told me to share.

I didn’t realize just how raw the story was, until I tried to figure out how to share it, how much to share, and how to fit it into just the intro of my talk.

Honestly, I was scared. It was one thing to share this specific story in writing, in general terms, on my blog, but it was completely different to do it in person, with more specifics…

(to be continued)


Deb said...

Reading your blog is almost as good as going to She Speaks.

Looking forward to hearing more.

I love watching you through your blog.

Stepping out in faith.

Getting your hands around this writing thing.

Sweet dreams.

Lysa TerKeurst said...

I loved reading some of your She Speaks recaps. I am going to send a link to Wendy and Karen. What you said will encourage them so much.

And thank you for your sweet comment on my blog. You really touch my heart!

Jill said...

It has been great reading your recaps - brings back a lot of memories for as well. This past Friday I connected with a friend and shared the experience with her, which was just what I needed to do. God confirmed things for all of us, now we just need to keep believing and continue following. My prayers are with you as you do just that! ~ Jill

Tina said...

I have been behind on my blog reading ... You have me! I so look forward to the next post! It is so plain to see that God is working in your life, I feel blessed to be a part of it. I also feel that He is speaking to me through you and your story. I have been praying about attending She Speaks in the future.

In Him,

Anonymous said...

I was unable to attend She Speaks this year but with your blog I fell like I am get the best highlights of the best. About 8-9 months I began to feel God calling me to speak but I was not sure where, when or how to get started. I look forward to what else God has to teach me through your words.

Danielle said...

I love reading how God touched your life while at SSpeaks. I look forward to the next part!

Connie said...

Thanks for sharing each part of your SheSpeaks experience with us. It has blessed me to hear how the Lord worked in your life that week and since then...and also to have your insight into sessions you took and what you learned in them.

elaine @ peace for the journey said...

You are precious beyond words. Your words to me today refreshed my tired heart! I'm so proud of you for doing all of this. God is, indeed, stretching you to tell your story. Don't think it all needs to be perfect at this point; just take it bit by bit and allow God is extraordinary working in it all.

If anything "good" ever comes from our ministry efforts (whether writing, speaking, cooking, comforting) it is through the power of God's Spirit within. He is the fuel that burns the fire with intensity.

Keep to it, friend. I know it's hard, but you were made for the sacred journey. Never forget that.


Karen Ehman said...


Your post totally blessed me! Thank you for your kind words. I am so glad the breakout session spoke to your heart and that you are willing to implement action steps right away. May God completely bless your efforts! Sweet Blessings,